💢 My Rant

I think finding out and making an outfit that I like is enjoyable. I am annoyed that men are very limited in choices for what men are deemed socially allowed to wear. Once mum bought a men's jean for herself, I asked why, she said she likes it loose in that jean. Does that make mum less of a woman, less of a mum? Hmm... No right?

In my childhood days, not sure if you remember my layering jacket style, I was indeed very fashionable at that time. Then, I don't know since when, I stopped doing so for exactly what reason I can't remember already. But that time I too was limited in what society deem ok for boys to wear, having never read up nor learn history, same as ignorant as everyday folk.

Clothing, whether a skirt or handbag or anything, itself has no gender. It is only pieces of fabric of different cutting stitched together through sewing. It is just what society deems acceptable.

I asked myself that if I paid money to buy a piece of clothing, does that make it mine already? Instead of women's handbags or men's handbags? I paid my money to buy the damn handbag, so it should be mine right? If not, whose handbag is it? Same goes for skirts, if I paid my money to buy it, then it should be my skirt, not women's skirt nor men's skirt.

I saw sis and mum panties feel smooth for a long time already. Well, I refuse to wear theirs so I googled the material ice silk and got myself RM10 for 6x panties from Shopee. Dad was flabbergasted lmao. The material feels not bad but the cutting is a bit off to me. After some time I came across some men's version of the underwear from Shopee, exactly the same material and same sewing, only different in cutting, but cost RM5 for 1x. I bought 3x and dad still claimed they are women's underwear even with a bulge in front lmao. Now I wear all of them interchangeably whenever I like along with my old undies. I am a little annoyed by their price difference too. I placed my “ice silk women panties” and “ice silk men underwear” side by side and as expected, realized that they are from the same fabric after all.

What I choose to wear must be what I like and what I feel comfortable in and what I feel stylish in. You know life is short to keep worrying about what others think. Should we not wear what we like? Heck I am being selfish.

I do have a few damn stylish hot guy pants and shirts, but I almost never wear them because they aren't very comfortable sadly. One is too crotch binding though it shows off long slim legs. While another shirt is too tight though it emphasizes a very muscular upper body.

For instance, wearing a skirt. Am I lawfully wrong doing so? Is there any law stating that guys must not wear skirts? Then, am I morally wrong doing so? Am I hurting someone else by doing so? Only socially wrong as people not accepting. But that is because people never knew history. If someone asked me to stop wearing a skirt, I can choose to rudely answer in a rude way, if I wanted to, by saying: "Am I living my life or your life?"

I asked myself for which of this statement is true:

1. Because she wears a skirt, she is a woman. OR

2. Because she is a woman, she wears a skirt.

If no. 1 is true, does that mean "Because she is not wearing a skirt, she is not a woman?" So all women who are currently wearing pants are not women after all.

If no. 2 is true, then nearly all men in skirts in history were women after all... Even Jesus Christ 耶稣 were a woman? I would be killed by Christians if I stated so. You can google Jesus' image most likely you will find an image of Jesus in a dress robe.

Let's talk about history of skirt, no, history of woman clothing in general.

• High heel - That was what king and lord wore to differentiate their higher status compared to normal peasants at that time.

• Gladiator sandal - Worn by Roman gladiators. These gladiators are often slaves or war prisoners. They are guaranteed freedom after surviving a number of battles to the death or a number of years in the colosseum. Even after they obtain their freedom, they still continue to wear these sandals. And these sandals become the symbol of strength. Women and powerful men like the looks, and got themselves custom made.

• Frill - At a time of no machine, where from thread to fabric to cloth are to be hand-crafted, high status men displayed their wealth by wearing frill that increase their clothing volume to display their wealth and power.

• Dress - Originally worn by soldier as an undergarment below metal armor, so that metal do not rub against body directly. These soldiers continued to wear them at home due to comfort, and their wife absolutely loved them.

• Skirt - The easiest thing to sew as it was a piece of fabric wrapped together without inseam that required extra fabric. Fabric is very expensive and time consuming to make in days without machines.

• Cardigan - Inspired from British army waist coat worn during a war.

You know when men started to stop wearing skirts? That was when men needed to ride horses to war!

And when did men really stop wearing skirts? When it was the French industrial revolution, where cloth making started to be replaced by machines where previously it was a pain in the butt to sew pants. Along with men needing to work in factories of heavy machinery, pants that cover legs give better protection compared to flowy skirts or dresses that can easily get stuck in machine parts.

You know, up until the 1940s to 1960s, women were not allowed to wear pants! How come women were allowed to wear pants after then? Because of world war 2. Men were selected to the front line while women were recruited into factories to work while men were away in war. Same reason as to why men wore pants in factories. Tell all women who wore pants they were cross dressing after all lmao. Just like a woman stays a woman when in pants unless she chose to present as a man, a man stays a man when in skirt, unless he chose to present as a woman.

Speaking of colours, gender design, blue vs pink. Up until the 20th century, pink was the boy colour while blue was the girl colour. Total opposite than today. Weird right? Screw their load of crap, we wear what colour we like.

Roman soldiers once viewed skirts as the very manly cloth while pants were very girly. But they adopted pants alas when they had to invade the colder region, having pants under their skirt to keep them warm in cold regions. Their pants eventually become the pantyhose of the Kings of later eras.

The most highest status men of that time, the Kings wore the epitome of what today feminine design. Pantyhose, skirt, wig, bow, frill, high heel, all worn by kings lmao, except a bra I guess.

Back to the present.

When we don't care what others think, we are free to experiment with styles. And we ought to acknowledge that not all styles work, just like a fat lady most likely not gonna look good in miniskirt, just my opinion.

I still present as a man even in a skirt or handbag or whatever, not trying to look like a woman at all.

I personally like the look and usage of my handbag. I really don’t like the look of usual men’s handbags, so up until now I don’t use them. Plus mum and sis were there to help carry my needs like handphone, tissue, Thai oil, face oil control film, etc., and even water bottles! Mum’s handbag of one zip to open them all might have influenced my preference.

Designer and model have been working on skirts for men on T stage for some time but not much success as men will go to the lady section to buy skirts anyway. Perhaps that causes no skirt to be found in the men's section.

Hopefully skirt will hit the men’s rack soon or to become unisex clothing. But up until now unisex clothing is actually a big fat lie. What is marked as unisex clothing is actually men’s clothing that is marketed towards women. But there isn’t any women’s clothing that is being marked as unisex clothing at all.

You know what’s the reason behind society's double standard of somewhat accepting a woman wearing men’s wear but not the opposite way? That is because of the heavy implantation of males as the better gender than females. Chinese term 重男轻女. And Nenek is quite a prime example of it. Look at China’s big imbalance between the number of men and women as a result of the one child policy.

Society sees men as the higher status one (desirable gender) while women as the lower status one (not desirable gender). So it is ok for a woman to wear what men usually wear, as a way to improve one’s status. While men who wear what women normally wear is frowned upon, as they ask, why would a man throw away his higher status for a lower status?

If a man wearing a skirt is gay, and the next day the gay man wears pants, does that make everyone else who is wearing pants gay too? I see that what one’s wearing has no connection to his sexual preference, for which clothing is clothing.

Dad claims when I'm wearing a skirt = akua. Then, I said, I have been wearing pants all my life, so I ain’t a man all my life after all? I was akua in pants for the past 27 years just from a few days in a skirt? I asked again, the moment I went back to my shorts. So, am I back to being a guy again? He answered yes. So I said, “Wow, akua and guy can be easily swapped to and from, just like the light switch next to the wall on and off”, I exclaimed sarcastically.

Well, I do have my limit for no way I would put these on because:

1. Nail polish - I hate their smell.

2. High heel - I tried them before back when I was a kid. Really hard to walk in and risk bone damage.

3. Bra - I tried out a few of mum’s out of curiosity, and I don’t like being binded.

4. Makeup - In addition to plenty of skill and practice needed, I ain’t got patience to put them on nor remove them plus risk damaging face causing acne etc. Best natural after all. Except lipstick has a special place in my heart.

5. Perfume - I cannot tolerate them. Neither is cologne.

6. Wig or long hair - I like the cool wind around my head.

From these 6 alone, I know I ain’t a cross dresser. I do not intend to present as a woman.

The rest that I didn’t list is in my list of finding out my fashion freedom styles. I embrace fashion freedom.

Oh do I forget to mention it is cooler in a skirt of the same length as short? Biologically anatomy alone, shouldn’t men be the one who wear skirts to cool off their balls that are already hanging outside of their body to keep them lower than 37 °C body temperature?